RE: Guys, Do You Understand Girls?
As the title suggests, this post is a response to a blog post that I read earlier today. See the full post here.
First of all, this would be a generalisation of the male and female gender as each individual is unique and there are always exceptions to the rule. Well, now that the disclaimer is out of the way, lets get down to business =)
I think the bigger problem is the different definition of the "small things that matter" to men and women. Men are unfortunately bound by their egos. Society has determined that men should be the stronger ones and take care of the women. Hence, men don't want to be perceived as weak.
In some cases, some men relate showing affection as showing weakness. This is because men should be able to handle life's trials and tribulations by themselves without having to resort to physical contact such as a hug or a cuddle for comfort.
As for the matter of sending short notes and messages, some men find it a hassle especially after the so called 'honeymoon' period in the relationship. It also doesn't help that men are also constantly teased about having to constantly "report-in" to their significant other. Although personally, I don't subscribe to this line of reasoning.
Having the ability to pick up subtle hints during conversations is a honed and practiced skill. Most men are even unaware that their women are dropping such hints and secretly hoping that the men take notice and surprise them later. I guess men firstly need to be told outright about this occurrence as most are too ignorant too automatically pick up on such things. Communication is key!
When it comes to the matter of giving praise, it can be a very sensitive topic so most men prefer to leave their praises for very special occasions. Imagine how difficult a position he would be in when his praise of "Hey, you look good in this dress" gets retorted with "Are you saying I don't look good in my other clothes?" =)
However, a well placed compliment can do wonders to boost a woman's self-esteem as well as make her day especially coming from a loved one. I totally agree that both men and women should be more tactful in expressing their dissatisfactions regarding their partners. After all, no one is perfect and we all have our insecurities.
The bottom line is men and women are vastly different in many ways but I'd like to believe that He made us this way to complement each other. To allow us to support each other in the best possible manner.
I would recommend that everyone read a book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" to get a better idea into the inner workings of the mind of both males and females. You can find a summary of the book here.
In the recent years, there has been much speculation about "Sensitive New Age Guys" (SNAG) which I believe to be very in tuned to the needs of women. They instinctively know better what women want in each situation and are not bound by society's mold of how men should act. Perhaps us men can learn a thing or two from them to make our significant other's life just that little bit happier...
First of all, this would be a generalisation of the male and female gender as each individual is unique and there are always exceptions to the rule. Well, now that the disclaimer is out of the way, lets get down to business =)
I think the bigger problem is the different definition of the "small things that matter" to men and women. Men are unfortunately bound by their egos. Society has determined that men should be the stronger ones and take care of the women. Hence, men don't want to be perceived as weak.
In some cases, some men relate showing affection as showing weakness. This is because men should be able to handle life's trials and tribulations by themselves without having to resort to physical contact such as a hug or a cuddle for comfort.
As for the matter of sending short notes and messages, some men find it a hassle especially after the so called 'honeymoon' period in the relationship. It also doesn't help that men are also constantly teased about having to constantly "report-in" to their significant other. Although personally, I don't subscribe to this line of reasoning.
Having the ability to pick up subtle hints during conversations is a honed and practiced skill. Most men are even unaware that their women are dropping such hints and secretly hoping that the men take notice and surprise them later. I guess men firstly need to be told outright about this occurrence as most are too ignorant too automatically pick up on such things. Communication is key!
When it comes to the matter of giving praise, it can be a very sensitive topic so most men prefer to leave their praises for very special occasions. Imagine how difficult a position he would be in when his praise of "Hey, you look good in this dress" gets retorted with "Are you saying I don't look good in my other clothes?" =)
However, a well placed compliment can do wonders to boost a woman's self-esteem as well as make her day especially coming from a loved one. I totally agree that both men and women should be more tactful in expressing their dissatisfactions regarding their partners. After all, no one is perfect and we all have our insecurities.
The bottom line is men and women are vastly different in many ways but I'd like to believe that He made us this way to complement each other. To allow us to support each other in the best possible manner.
I would recommend that everyone read a book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" to get a better idea into the inner workings of the mind of both males and females. You can find a summary of the book here.
In the recent years, there has been much speculation about "Sensitive New Age Guys" (SNAG) which I believe to be very in tuned to the needs of women. They instinctively know better what women want in each situation and are not bound by society's mold of how men should act. Perhaps us men can learn a thing or two from them to make our significant other's life just that little bit happier...
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