Expressing Your Love...
There are few phrases that actually have a profound influence on our lives. No, I'm not talking about those immortal words uttered by Donald Trump every week in the boardroom but a phrase used to express one's love.
In this day and age, there are those who use 'love' in regards to every single aspect of their life from inanimate objects to the food they consume and there are those who are so utterly afraid of verbalizing the emotion to the point of causing unnecessary arguments and misunderstandings.
There is of course no right or wrong answer when it comes to the usage frequency if even at all. I think that at the end of the day, everyone is free to say what they want or otherwise.
However, this particular phrase becomes a much heated topic of discussion when it comes to romantic relationships. There are schools of thought who dictate the necessity of professing one's love to each other to maintain closeness in the relationship.
More often that not, it is the fairer sex that constantly champion the importance of this and even deviously pose questions such as "Do you love me?" to their partners in order to receive the proclamation they crave for.
On the other hand, they are also couples who hardly if ever verbally express their love for each other. From my observation, there are 2 kinds of groups that practice this.
The former group believes that the act of professing your love is so sacred that it should only be used sparingly so as not to overuse the word and render it meaningless. Personally, I don't really agree with this as I feel that one shouldn't suppress expressing one's love when the urge comes to say it.
The latter group would be the older generation that grew up in a different time where it was considered taboo to display affection of any sort in public, thus the need for restraint. This restraint soon became part and parcel of their lives extending to even when they were alone and up to this day, most older couples still avoid showing affection of any kind whether in public or not.
In my opinion, I think that the necessity of expressing one's love to one another in a relationship stems from the expectations of both parties. The biggest dilemma is when one party suddenly utters this powerful phrase to the other out of the blue especially in a new and fledging relationship.
If the recipient feels the same way, then its all fine and dandy as he or she can return the expression in a similar manner.
But what if the recipient is still unsure about his or her feelings? Will it be awkward if they just keep quiet or offer a weak smile in response? Will they hurt their partner's feelings by doing so? Should they reply in kind even though they do not feel the same way just to avoid the confrontation soon to ensue if they do not?
Just as a girl is normally more attuned to signals in the body language indicating whether a person is telling the truth or lies, most guys are also able to tell whether the response is sincere or is merely a ploy to avoid further confrontation (if they know how to look for it ;P).
Regardless of how often a couple verbally express their love for one another, I believe that it is definitely not as important as professing their love via their actions, after all actions speak louder than words, right?
The special occasions should be celebrated accordingly but whats more important is that the expression of one's love also be shown in simple everyday affairs.
Nothing says "I Love You!" more vividly than a loving husband still helping out with the housework even though he has had a long day at work or a caring wife labouring in the kitchen to prepare a wonderful meal for her husband even after spending the whole day at the office herself.
In this day and age, there are those who use 'love' in regards to every single aspect of their life from inanimate objects to the food they consume and there are those who are so utterly afraid of verbalizing the emotion to the point of causing unnecessary arguments and misunderstandings.
There is of course no right or wrong answer when it comes to the usage frequency if even at all. I think that at the end of the day, everyone is free to say what they want or otherwise.
However, this particular phrase becomes a much heated topic of discussion when it comes to romantic relationships. There are schools of thought who dictate the necessity of professing one's love to each other to maintain closeness in the relationship.
More often that not, it is the fairer sex that constantly champion the importance of this and even deviously pose questions such as "Do you love me?" to their partners in order to receive the proclamation they crave for.
On the other hand, they are also couples who hardly if ever verbally express their love for each other. From my observation, there are 2 kinds of groups that practice this.
The former group believes that the act of professing your love is so sacred that it should only be used sparingly so as not to overuse the word and render it meaningless. Personally, I don't really agree with this as I feel that one shouldn't suppress expressing one's love when the urge comes to say it.
The latter group would be the older generation that grew up in a different time where it was considered taboo to display affection of any sort in public, thus the need for restraint. This restraint soon became part and parcel of their lives extending to even when they were alone and up to this day, most older couples still avoid showing affection of any kind whether in public or not.
In my opinion, I think that the necessity of expressing one's love to one another in a relationship stems from the expectations of both parties. The biggest dilemma is when one party suddenly utters this powerful phrase to the other out of the blue especially in a new and fledging relationship.
If the recipient feels the same way, then its all fine and dandy as he or she can return the expression in a similar manner.
But what if the recipient is still unsure about his or her feelings? Will it be awkward if they just keep quiet or offer a weak smile in response? Will they hurt their partner's feelings by doing so? Should they reply in kind even though they do not feel the same way just to avoid the confrontation soon to ensue if they do not?
Just as a girl is normally more attuned to signals in the body language indicating whether a person is telling the truth or lies, most guys are also able to tell whether the response is sincere or is merely a ploy to avoid further confrontation (if they know how to look for it ;P).
Regardless of how often a couple verbally express their love for one another, I believe that it is definitely not as important as professing their love via their actions, after all actions speak louder than words, right?
The special occasions should be celebrated accordingly but whats more important is that the expression of one's love also be shown in simple everyday affairs.
Nothing says "I Love You!" more vividly than a loving husband still helping out with the housework even though he has had a long day at work or a caring wife labouring in the kitchen to prepare a wonderful meal for her husband even after spending the whole day at the office herself.
